A Complete Guide to the Secrets of Sexual Transmutation
by Scott JeffreySo let’s talk about sex.
Why?
Because it’s a vital topic for anyone interested in achievement, self-development, psychological maturity, and spiritual growth.
Sexual transmutation is also another one of those grossly misunderstood topics. Let’s change that right now.
Table of Contents
- What is Sexual Transmutation?
- What is Sexual Energy?
- Sexual Energy and Pleasure
- Sexual Transmutation: From Pleasure to Willpower
- How to Use Sexual Energy Transmutation to Manifest Your Desires
- 7 Reasons to Pursue Sexual Transmutation
- What Blocks Sexual Transmutation?
- The Art of Seminal Retention (For Men Only)
- The Three Treasures of Taoism
- Taoist Energy Transmutation: The Return of the Spirit
- Sexual Transmutation Starts With Healthy Kidneys
- Tips on How to Strengthen the Kidneys
- Do a kidney cleanse.
- Eat a diet that supports kidney health.
- Try Chinese herbs.
- Avoid cold foods and excessive raw food.
- Reduce your media consumption or go on a 30-day media fast.
- Avoid sexual stimulation for a few weeks.
- Face your fears.
- Practice kidney qigong.
- Keep your cell phone and technology at a distance.
- How to Build a Foundation for Spiritual Energy
- Resources on Inner Alchemy
- Read Next
- What do you think?
What is Sexual Transmutation?
Napoleon Hill’s self-help classic, Think and Grow Rich, is how many individuals first learn about sexual transmutation:
“Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature.”
Now, Hill’s definition is a good start, but we can go deeper.
Sexual transmutation is the process of converting sexual energy into some other drive, motivation, or energy of a higher order.
But what does that mean?
What is Sexual Energy?
To clarify this, let’s look at sexual energy through a visualization of the seven chakras.
The chakras are said to be seven energy centers in the body where each chakra relates to a specific gland in the endocrine system.
Sexual energy is part of your life force. This energy arises from the first or root chakra and the second or sacral chakra.
The root chakra is associated with your reproductive glands while the sacral chakra relates to your adrenals.
Each of the seven chakras connects through a spiraling energy channel that climbs up the body (kundalini). And this entire energy system is fueled by the base: the home of sexual energy.
Sexual Energy and Pleasure
The sacral chakra deals with pleasure. Although there are a few exceptions, most animals do not have sex for pleasure. Humans, macaques, orangutans, gorillas, and chimpanzees, however, do.
When the sacral chakra is in balance, this drive for sexual pleasure stays in moderation. But when something obstructs and weakens this sexual energy center, it leads to all kinds of problems like sex addictions, perversions, porn addictions, and aggressive behavior. (More on these problems below.)
Sexual Transmutation: From Pleasure to Willpower
Expressing sexual energy through sex and desire dissipates this energy. That is, sexual energy goes in one of two directions: out through the sex organ or up into the higher energy centers.
The basis for sexual transformation is to take your sexual energy and channel it into a higher energy center.
The chakra above the sacral is the solar plexus chakra, which deals with willpower.
So if a person lacks willpower, there’s a good chance that their sexual energy is leaking out via excessive sex, masturbation, stimulation, desire, worry, or overthinking.
It’s for this reason the self-help literature discusses sexual transmutation. For young men in particular, if they can channel their drive for sex and woman into their professional work, they increase their willpower to realize their goals and achieve more.
There’s a lot more to sexual transmutation beyond achievement. But before we proceed, let’s outline how achievement-driven sexual transmutation works.
How to Use Sexual Energy Transmutation to Manifest Your Desires
Using sexual energy transmutation to achieve a particular goal or manifest something (or someone) in your life is a straightforward process.
Step 1: Clarify what you want.
Determine your goal:
- Write it down.
- Create an image in your mind.
- Bring it alive in your imagination with sight, sound, and motion.
- Associate positive emotions to the outcome.
- Keep the goal to yourself.
Contrary to popular belief, both goal research and my personal experience suggest that it’s best to keep your desire or goal to yourself instead of announcing it to the world.
Step 2: Channel your attention toward your goal.
Most often, our energy and attention get fragmented into many directions including sexual desires. To use sexual transmutation, you’re going to channel this sexual energy into the image of your desired outcome.
Remember, we lose sexual energy that flows out. So instead of expressing this drive, maintain your attention on the goal you desire. It’s for this reason Napoleon Hill wrote about the importance of having a “burning desire.” Your desire for what you want must be greater than your drive for pleasure right now.
Connect with why you want it—your purpose for achieving it.
Step 3: Maintain your focus and be patient.
With renewed vigor, new ideas will likely begin to present themselves. The universe, as Hill writes, beings to conspire in your favor. You’ll align with allies to support you on your quest. And momentum will start to build.
Stick with this process long enough, and depending on the object of your desire, you’ll begin to manifest it.
Why Does This Process Work?
Instead of directing your awareness to random fleeting thoughts and pleasures, you’re channeling your life force energy into creating something in the physical world.
This transmutation process occurs naturally for the Magician archetype. Over time, you’ll learn nuances of this process and refine it based on your disposition.
What are the Limitations of this Form of Sexual Transmutation?
Eventually, you may sense a deeper calling. Or, you might become uninspired by using your sexual energy in this way.
Through a spiritual awakening, you may begin to see that your ego is playing a game. The ego is always creating new desires, not based on the Spirit’s Will, but on envy, greed, anger, and fear. Attainment begins to lose its thrill.
Then, there’s a shift from external achievement to inner transformation. You begin to see that you can use sexual transmutation to transform yourself. Then, things get more interesting.
7 Reasons to Pursue Sexual Transmutation
So now let’s quickly review some of the reasons individuals may be interested in sexual transmutation and the potential benefits it can produce.
1) Improve Your Physical Health
A primary advantage of sexual transmutation is that it can radically improve our vitality, longevity, and overall physical health. Also, if you suffer from lower back or knee pain, there’s a good chance it’s related to your kidneys (see below), and sex transmutation can help.
2) Achieve Material Success
We discussed this above. Higher achievement is the most common application of sex transmutation.
3) Cultivate More Physical Energy
Semen has over 200 different proteins, vitamins, minerals and amino acids. It’s a treasure chest of nutrients that the body and mind need to perform at its best. Sexual activity can deplete your life force while sexual transmutation cultivates it (see below).
4) Unlock More Creativity
Sexual energy is also creative energy. And the sexual energy we don’t expend during sex can be channeled into the creative process.
5) Improve Your Sex Life
When we deplete our sexual energy, we have a low libido or sex drive. In men, this often leads to impotence. Through sexual transmutation and having sex in moderation, one can improve their sex life.
6) Develop Martial and Internal Power
Eastern material artists and qigong practitioners use sexual transmutation to cultivate internal power by converting sexual energy into chi (see below). Many professional athletes do so as well.
7) Achieve Higher Spiritual Development
Perhaps the highest use of sexual transmutation is to use it to awaken and cultivate the Spirit within.
What Blocks Sexual Transmutation?
Sexual transmutation, in a fundamental sense, is a natural process. When we’re not transmuting sexual energy into creative energy and willpower, it means something is blocking or misdirecting it.
Buddhists call this misdirection indulgence while Taoists describe it as leakage. Our life force, in essence, leaks out of us. The whole objective of meditation and the alchemical practices in the East is to stop this leakage.
The source of this leakage is in the mind: random thoughts and negative emotions like anger, fear, and guilt. (Guilt blocks the sacral chakra.)
In Tibetan Buddhism, they explain that the source of human suffering is the Three Poisons: attraction, aversion, and delusion, or desire, aggression, and ignorance. All three poisons cause leakage.
The Art of Seminal Retention (For Men Only)
A critical aspect of sexual transmutation taught in many ancient philosophies from Asia and India is seminal retention.
Seminal retention is the practice of abstaining from ejaculation. These ancient traditions believed that they could cultivate their life force through seminal retention to achieve greater vitality and longevity.
Both the nutrients within the semen as well as the life essence with the sperm itself, when retained, can be used and absorbed back into your body to support your higher energy centers, your nervous system, and your brain.
Have you ever noticed an immediate reduction in energy after ejaculating? Perhaps you’ve observed a slight sense of depression as well?
The French term La petite mort translates to “the little death” and is used to describe a sexual orgasm.
What if men weren’t designed to release their seed (except for procreation)?
I’m not suggesting this is necessarily so, but it’s a question worthy of consideration, for it is true, it might help explain the current poor state of masculinity in our society.
Meeting an Ancient Taoist
A few years ago, I had the opportunity to meet a man from China who claimed to be 93 years old. I say “claimed to be” because he looked like he was in his early 50s, and I was (and still am) a bit skeptical.
But he trained in the ancient Taoist ways. And both of my qigong instructors who met with him were impressed with his level of skill, ability, and knowledge. (Both of these practitioners have each trained for over 40 and 30 years, respectively.)
This Taoist told me that in the old way of practicing these arts, you abstain from sex throughout your life—you never “break the seal” as they say in certain Taoist texts.
He said that even Taoists nuns (women practice and train separately from men) abstain from sex. Finally, he said that this was the secret to longevity and cultivating one’s energy.
As it says in the Hui-Ming Ching:
“When life energy is not excited or stirred by desire, we will become immortal.”
Again, I share this story merely as an idea to reflect on.
Ejaculation Frequency for Optimal Health
That said, in many Taoist texts you’ll find guidelines for the frequency of ejaculation that’s safe for men interested in preserving their life force.
The younger you are, the more life force you have. As you get older, this life force depletes.
- Teenagers: Sex once a day
- In your 20s: Once every three days
- In your 30s: Once a week
- In your 40s: Once every two weeks
- In your 60s: Once every 100 days
Signs of excessive ejaculation include chronic fatigue, stiffness in the joints, and pain in your knees and lower back.
And for sexual energy transmutation, these frequency ranges are probably too generous.
What About Pornography?
You won’t find much about pornography in ancient texts. Porn is a new problem that plagues the latest generations. Here, however, we can turn to scientific research.
- Studies show that pornography rewires the brain, making it less connected and less active. (Citation)
- Porn usage easily becomes compulsive and addictive. (Citation)
- Masturbation and pornography create problems with arousal, sexual desire, and sexual performance. (Citation)
Countless other studies point to the harmful effects of pornography. Here are some shocking stats about porn usage.
From the context of sexual transmutation, pornography is perhaps it’s the greatest destroyer of sexual energy in men. If you need assistance in this area, check out the NoFap website or just Google “nofap.”
The Three Treasures of Taoism
For the remainder of this sexual transmutation guide, I’m going to take a more Eastern perspective.
Anyone familiar with Taoism will know the three treasures: Jing, Qi, and Shen.
Jing, Qi, and Shen are energetic substances or frequencies that control many aspects of our health, behavior, psyche, and spiritual development.
But even though these three treasures are considered three different substances, they are of the same essence, similar to how water can take the form of gas, liquid, and solid (ice).
Jing – Essence
Jing is the lowest vibration of the three treasures. Many people mistake Jing as sexual energy or seminal fluid, but excessive sex does deplete one’s Jing. Jing most closely translates in English to Life’s Essence.
Qi – Energy
The Essence of the body converts to Qi (or Chi), which most closely translates to energy. Qi is a higher vibration than Jing, and it transports information throughout the body’s energy system.
Shen – Spirit
Shen, the highest or most refined vibration, is the energy of consciousness. Many schools of Taoism consider Shen the individual’s Spirit. Shen manifests as bright white light, and its frequency is closest to Heaven.
Taoist Energy Transmutation: The Return of the Spirit
Perceiving sexual transmutation through the lens of Taoism then, the primary goal in this process isn’t material but spiritual.
The original alchemists weren’t early Western chemists attempting to transmute lead into gold. Instead, these ancient Chinese Taoists were converting the elemental substances in their bodies.
These Inner Alchemists sought to refine their Jing into Qi by preserving their Jing (through seminal retention) and cultivating their Qi through a healthy, balanced lifestyle, virtuosity, and various Qigong practices (including standing meditations like Zhan Zhuang).
Then, they sought to convert their Qi into Shen through meditative techniques designed to turn the body’s torso into a cauldron that refines the Qi. This alchemical process transmutes their energy into Shen or the Original Spirit.
I’ll provide resources below for those who are interested in exploring this topic more deeply.
Sexual Transmutation Starts With Healthy Kidneys
In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the kidneys are responsible for growth, reproduction, urinary function, bones, brain, and the storehouse of our essence (Jing).
If the kidneys are deficient in what’s called vital-qi, the guardian qi (the subtle energy field around the body) will also be weak. And this deficiency lowers the immune system, which affects the rest of the body.
The kidneys are one of the essential organs in the human body, and we tend to give them little attention.
Improper regulation of sexual energy depletes Jing and causes weakness in this organ over time. Coldness in the limbs is a common sign of kidney deficiency.
Regardless of your reason for pursuing sexual transmutation, it’s a great idea to heal and strengthen your kidneys first.
Tips on How to Strengthen the Kidneys
There are many ways to strengthen your kidneys and cultivate your Life Essence (sexual energy):
Do a kidney cleanse.
You can find a lot of resources for kidney cleanses online. Hulda Clark’s is perhaps the most comprehensive. Renaltrex Kidney Cleanse is a great product too.
Eat a diet that supports kidney health.
Foods that support proper kidney function include black beans, kidney beans, blueberries, blackberries, spirulina, kelp, seaweed, pumpkin seeds, black sesame seeds, walnuts, chestnuts, barley, millet and dark, leafy green vegetables.
Try Chinese herbs.
Take Six Flavor Teapills (Liu Wei Di Huang Wan) to support kidney health.
Avoid cold foods and excessive raw food.
The kidneys and the liver don’t like anything cold—especially during winter months and in cold climates. The more sensitive you become to your body’s energy system, the more averse to cold foods (like ice cream) you’ll likely become.
Reduce your media consumption or go on a 30-day media fast.
Why is this important? Advertising, television programming, video games, and films are entrenched with sexual images designed to stimulate you. And these images draw your energy out, whether you want them too or not. Many genres of music like pop and R&B do so as well.
Avoid sexual stimulation for a few weeks.
Avoid sexual activity, masturbation, or sexual stimulation of any kind. Although Jing is not sperm, men lose Jing through sex and ejaculation. Conserving your Essence is a primary key to sexual transmutation.
Face your fears.
Each organ relates to a specific predominant emotion. For the kidneys, it’s fear. Excessive fear damages the kidneys. Containing your fear is a vital step for entire mature adulthood.
Practice kidney qigong.
There are many practices in qigong that specifically target the kidneys. For example, the seventh exercise in the Eight Brocades (Ba Daun Jin) and the kidney sound (“Chui”) in the Six Healing Sounds. The book Qigong Empowerment offers excellent medical qigong exercises, including kidney qigong.
Keep your cell phone and technology at a distance.
Over a dozen studies show that radiation from cell phones impair sperm function. Never keep your cell phone in your pants pockets, and always keep it away from your head (always use a headset).
How to Build a Foundation for Spiritual Energy
Transmuting sexual energy into spiritual energy can occur when the internal conditions are present. And it’s up to us to cultivate these internal conditions.
So what are these conditions?
Foundation #1: An Energetically Open Body
The body’s energetic system must flow freely, but for most individuals, we have many blockages throughout the body. Qigong stretching is designed to help gently open the body.
Then, learn how to sink all your tension down into the ground through a practice like Zhan Zhuang.
Foundation #2: A Calm, Abiding Mind
Thoughts create tension in the body. When you’re able to quiet your mind, your body’s energy is naturally preserved.
There are many methods for quieting the mind including meditative practices, breathing techniques, and proper sleep.
Foundation #3: A Lightened Mood
Fear, anger, and seriousness all block the body’s energy system. In fact, emotions stuck in the body is the primary source of our energetic blockage.
Lightening one’s mind opens energetic channels. Access the precocious child in you and a sense of playfulness. Smile and hum for no reason at all. Try getting a HeartMath emWave2 and practice their heart coherence technique.
Even if you didn’t go any further, setting up these three foundations can radically transform your life experience for the better.
Resources on Inner Alchemy
To learn about this Taoist alchemical process, see Liu Hua-Yang’s Cultivating the Energy of Life. Another ancient text, often called the Dragon-Tiger Classic explores this alchemical process in detail as an external physical process, sexual transmutation, and internal energy cultivation.
And if you’re looking for practical instruction, see Damo Mitchell’s Daoist Nei Gong and White Moon on the Mountain Peak. Mitchell provides the most comprehensive guidance for Westerner’s that I’ve come across.
Like many people, I was first introduced to these ideas from qigong teacher Mantak Chia. Books like Taoist Secrets of Love and The Multi-Orgasm Man were tantalizing, and his practices were easy to follow.
However, I’ve come to believe that many of Chia’s methods are potentially harmful. I don’t think it’s advisable to force your sexual energy upward (as you do in his “Power Lock” method).
Cultivating the body’s energy is a natural process. It’s supposed to happen spontaneously when the conditions are appropriate (which is where meditative practices come in).
Also, Chia suggests that we only lose Jing through ejaculation and not sex itself. Even without ejaculation, sex most definitely drains energy, especially in men.
Read Next
Emotional Alchemy: How to Transmute Repressed Emotions
Impulse Control: How to Stop Bad Behaviors
The Definitive Guide to Energy Vampires
What do you think?
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Very interesting. All this secret ancient teachings hopefully are coming to reach more and more people.
I’ve been following a very similar technique I came across 2 years ago (although it concerns more than just the connection on the physical and spiritual): https://youtu.be/xAXq0G_AcYQ
Thank you. Keep up spreading useful knowledge.
Yes, Magda, it does appear like more and more people are becoming aware of these ancient teachings. Santos Bonacci is a very knowledgeable man; I’ve watched a number of his lectures. Thanks for commenting.
Very informative article!! Thank you, looking forward to learning from you. So glad I found your website! ? I signed up for your coursework, but haven’t started yet.
Sure thing, Cherie. Welcome! Thanks for being here.
Great article. A lot of the info on sexual transmutation out there say orgasm is the key to manifesting desires. Is this misguided?
It’s helpful to look at the cultural context to understand why such an idea would arise.
Since the 1970s, each generation has been increasingly over-sexualized via the media. Yet, at the same time, overall, we’re still sexually repressed mainly because of the old religious programming that told us sex is a sin, masturbation is a sin, etc. These sentiments not only make the desire for sex and masturbation stronger (for what you restrict grows stronger), but it also makes us feel ashamed and guilty for our sexual desires.
And so given this context, if you’re highly repressed and then have an orgasm, you can potentially release a lot of stored/blocked energy that can then be channeled into other areas of life. But this will not occur continuously after the sexual energy is unblocked.
So yes, I believe, this sentiment is misguided.
Thank you for the question, Tova.
you describe it all in such a clear and succinct way – great piece thank you
Thank you, Angeline.
Scott, thank you for the info. As a person who is very sexual, I can now see why I feel the way I do after ejaculating. I’ve felt that my addiction to sex has played a bigger role than it has been, and now I see the reason. Great work!
Sure thing, Dave. This issue becomes a major issue for many men as they get older. It’s the primary reason so many men end up on meds like Viagra. And eventually, not only does it destroy their kidneys, but it damages their hearts too.
Thanks for your comments.
Grateful for this article and information. It certainly helps me understand my partner and his long term addiction he’s had with Porn. Not only has it heavily affected our relationship, but also our sex life; and despite always having this hunch that it was draining him- he refused to see it and continued on the path of porn. I believe him when he says he has refrained from porn for a month or two now- and is genuinely interested in continuing to uncover and define his own path of sexual fulfillment, but with his now present interests to entertaining opening up our relationship to others- I can’t help but wonder if this is (partially) a replacement for his addiction? I know there is more to it for him, in terms of him feeling truly free and whatnot, yet I don’t see how after him acknowledging he had a porn addiction, to recently deciding himself to cut it off, to then a more peaked interest in being with other people, yet at the same time seeking sexual transmutation…. well it’s all so confusing and contradictory to me, and these things are incongruent in my eyes. Have you any thoughts?
Incongruent, indeed. But also quite common.
It seems your partner’s Trickster has got the better of him (and you, it seems). See: https://scottjeffrey.com/magician-archetype/
Every form of media we consume is like a program we download into our operating system. Once it’s there, it’s there.
Imagine all of the images your partner “downloaded” into his operating system through years of porn consumption.
Now, for the parts that’s watching porn, that part is experiencing what’s happening on the screen (as if it was happening to it).
But what happens when your partner stops “feeding” that part with the images and sensations it’s used to experiencing? It still desires these experiences; in fact, it demands them. And so it seeks other avenues of similar experiences (e.g., “opening up to others sexually”). For this part, one partner will never be enough.
The challenge is that there’s no satiation for this part that’s addicted. Psychologically, this shadow archetype is actually called the Addicted Lover. It will always seek more and more.
Scott!!!
This is Brilliant!
Read, re-read and heard about Hill’s sexual transmutation but never quite got it.
Your explanation is outstanding!!
It has also been very true for me. There are times I “drain” my energy and feel tired, wake from sleep later and am less connected to myself and others.
When I go celebate, I definitely enter, higher, more poweful, more connected and more alive states in my day.
So Appreciative of Your Work,
Paul
Thank you, Paul. Great to hear you liked my explanation.
Yes, the longer you go without “leaking” the energy, the more active, alert, and powerful state you’ll likely to experience.
The key is the context: If you do it from shame and guilt, it creates resentment and eventually leads to a backlash. If you abstain from something within you that pulls you in that direction, the experience is more beneficial and sustaining.
Thanks for your comments!
I always learn something new from your posts. I appreciate your insight and content.
That’s great to hear, Wendy. Thanks for reading it and sharing your comments.
This was THE elaborate article about sexual energy but it would have been more helpful if it included a topic about how to channelize the thought from the super urge to masturbate.
Arvind, channeling your thoughts away from the urge isn’t likely to be effective over time. Instead, you would want to build self-awareness to understand the source of the urge to masturbate.
If you’re subjecting yourself to many sexual images online (or in person), that’s one reason. But even here, if you look into the matter more deeply, you may see that it’s the energy in these women that are teasing and seducing you, which leads to the second source of the urge below…
An even more common (but unrecognized) reason for the urge is from repressed rage. Most sexual activity, in fact, is an expression of this rage. (Pornography itself is built mainly on repressed rage toward the feminine — specifically, the mother, in Jungian terms.)
Great read scott, genuinely edifying, but I feel you as well are teasing, being terse with information, cutting your comments short right when they become deeply interesting and i feel closer to a breakthrough. Surely there’s more that you could be, or (i feel) even meant to be saying after that last paragraph about repressed rage toward the feminine/mother….and not just this comment, a few, feel like you may be holding further information or insights back. Have you nothing more to say about this ‘repressed rage’, and why it exists?
Hi Roh, I think your expectations for how much context and information I (or anyone else) can or should provide in a comment section is a bit unreasonable.
I address repressed emotions more deeply here: https://scottjeffrey.com/repressed-emotions/
And I reference Dr. John Sarno’s work who goes into detail of the various reasons for this rage. Examples include mistreatment in childhood, parents, siblings, school, teachers, other kids — the list is very long.
This rage exists because we live in a world where mistreatment is “so normal” that we don’t even fully know when we’re being mistreated–or when we’re mistreating others.
Plus, we’re consumed by various archetypal patterns that live on negative emotions like rage.
https://scottjeffrey.com/archetypes-psychology/
Thank you so much for this amazing guide and inspiration!!
You got it, Kees. Thanks for commenting!
This is a promising guide. Thanks
Sure thing, Victor. Happy to hear you find it promising.
Thank you very much for writing this article- it is splendidly written and has provided me many useful information about sexual transmutation. Also, may I please ask you a question?
Do you think a normal healthy teenager(about 18 years old) should ejaculate once every 1~3 day (according to the content in the article) for optimal health, or would it simply fine to not ejaculate at all and just simply transmute my sexual energy?
Once again, thank you very much.
Hi Peter. Thank you for the kind words.
To your question, no, I definitely don’t think an 18 “should” ejaculate that often. Those general guidelines are merely suggesting that the younger you are, the less you will deplete/damage your jing through ejaculation.
Moderation is always the key. If a teenager doesn’t have a strong impulse to ejaculate, he should not ejaculate. The main thing is just not to try to force anything through rigid restriction because this creates other problems.
So if the impulse isn’t there, engaging in internal practices can help you cultivate greater energy and longevity as well an enable you to develop higher consciousness/awareness.
In an ideal world, I believe that’s what all young men would do.
Yeah, I was referring the 18 above to myself in my previous response. It would great if you can please answer another of my question.
One of the thing that really bothers me recently is my ridiculously strong impulse to ejaculate. Can you please give me some advice to stop/limit these impulses? Thank you
Here is an brief introduction to me:
– I did not ejaculate for about 100 days (also watched absolutely 0 porn, and my days of not ejaculating could be even more than 100.)
– I’m always truly happy and a positive human being.
– I’m in a middle of a boiling hot summer right now.
Recently, I have many very, very strong urge to ejaculate. Firstly, I went to take a crap alot more often (up to 10 times), with the urge to ejaculate always accompanying me(sometimes the urges comes out in the mornings and sometimes in the afternoons). The worrying part of this is that often sperms leak out after I have finish taking all my craps, which made my urge to ejaculate even stronger. I tried to resolve this problem by doing intense exercises but yet, it was only successful for that day. The urge generally comes back in next day morning (so basically I start taking crap again and the situation above repeats). This urge is really, really distracting in my life. I simply cannot calm down. I simply cannot focus. I simply cannot do anything- I simply feel like an base animal that can’t control himself. I feel really lost for the first time in a long time of my life. I used very limited internet everyday and when I use it, it was always for productive purposes. I also do not think/imagine of anything sexually. I also rarely have negative emotions and I am always a happy person. Can you please offer me some advice that can help with my current situation?
Thank you very much, any words won’t do me any justice in expressing my gratitude towards you.
The situations you’re describing may be related to a specific energetic blockage and it’s really not something I can diagnose or advice on over the internet. A skilled acupuncturist may be able to help you.
But here’s what I can add: I’ve never met a “truly happy and positive human being.” Seriously.
Sure, you can feel that way at times, but we don’t live in a 3D reality that would facilitate this as a continual state of being.
Everyone has a reservoir of deeply-rooted repressed rage. The more conscious you become of it within yourself, but more you can observe it in others.
https://scottjeffrey.com/repressed-emotions/
Also, the first 18 years of our lives are when we are forming our shadow. That is to say, if you’re 18, you can’t really know yourself yet.
https://scottjeffrey.com/shadow-work/
I mention both of these things is because, in my observation and experience, in most young men (well, older men too), the root of the urge to ejaculate is almost always rage. And so if you’re identifying yourself as a “happy person” you’re likely almost 100% unconscious to these darker, negative emotions. But that doesn’t mean they’re not there …
Also, when you poop, you are releasing or letting go, so this can move the energy downward and make the impulse stronger.
hey, very nice guide. i’m looking for a way to deal with unreleased sexual energy after having a non-ejaculatory sex. i’ve read mantak chia’s book but all those methods seem too extreme and advanced for my level. have you got any suggestion how to deal with it some other, more natural way?
Yes, I highly recommend avoiding Mantak Chia’s instructions.
There is a safer process for men called “stilling the Jing” where you gently contract the base of the penis and then the perineum. And then you allow your awareness to sink down into the lower dantien. For detailed instructions, see Damo Mitchell’s “A Comprehensive Guide to Daoist Nei Gong.”
thanks for your reply, i hope i’ll get my hands on that book soon enough.
the energy that’s troubling me is located somewhere in my lower back. somewhere beneath the kidneys. i’ve tried leading it upwards but i’m really unexperienced in the energy work so i feel it doesn’t work.. i’m guessing it’s the sexual energy, could i be wrong?
Unless the experience is only happening after sex, there’s a good chance it’s not “sexual energy” or jing. The lower back is where we store a great deal of emotional energy, especially rage. You can also try sinking the energy downward.
See: https://scottjeffrey.com/zhan-zhuang/
it’s only happening right after sex. and it takes a good half an hour to an hour to settle. i don’t experience it otherwise.. i’d say it’s located in the upper lower back, staying there…
i’ll start the zhan zhuang today.
thanks for your responses, if you got any more tips, i’m all ears
Amazing article, I take it your familiar with the no fap movement? I have to ask based off my extensive studies on this topic, is no fap or sexual retention a safe method for someone who was diagnosed with full fledged Chronic Fatigue syndrome at 17? I am now 21, and have been thankful beyond measure to have my energy restored enough to function, so I am very weary about this movement considering the intense will power that it takes to abstain from sexual stimuli. For me personally I have always found it imperative to at least masturbate every 2-3 days to keep my testosterone relatively high to function throughout the day. Also, I find that as a 4.0 student I am somehow more focused on school work when I keep to this schedule for Mo. If I abstain for longer than a week I began to have the energy equivalent to a Siberian husky puppy (too much for my own good.) I literally want to run outside like an animal, rather than sit and concentrate on my school work. Ps Yes I do meditate and have been for about 2-3 years off and on, and now every day, but even my meditation sessions become erratic after 7+ days of no sexual release. Thanks a ton, it would mean a lot if you answered.
Hi JS. First, from your comments, you seem to be mixing up sexual stimuli and masturbation. You say you “need” to masturbate every 2-3 days. But do you need sexual stimuli (i.e. porn) to do it? They are two different issues, albeit inter-related. Although nofap is about avoiding pornography and masturbation, if you eliminate porn entirely, how much desire to masturbate would really remain?
Second, excessive ejaculation is more likely to lead to chronic fatigue — not the other way around. But what’s “excessive” a young man is dependent on numerous factors.
Third, with the conditions you describe, including your age, meditation (without being held within the right context) might actually be exacerbating the problem (i.e. creating more rage). You might consider more body-oriented practices that channel your emotions in constructive ways. With a 4.0, you’re liking highly engaged with your mind, which often comes at the expense of the body. Learning how to bring your mind into your body may be a useful path for you.
But ultimately, we each have to navigate these issues on our own and experiment to find what works …
Thank you for replying. You are correct, I went back and reviewed what I had said, and I wrote the sexual stimuli sentence incorrectly. What I meant to say was the “intense will power to abstain from MO” not pornographic material. In fact I have already taken major steps to rid of all pornographic material, and I am continuing to see great results concerning “reduced urges” to Mo.
Second, I am little confused as to what you mean by “without being held in the right context” are you saying the the abstention from Mo(Masturbation) leads to increased rage, which will exacerbate my case? Following this, which body oriented practices do you suggest outside of yoga? I have incorporated yoga in my schedule. I also eat relatively healthy, and get plenty of exercise.
I think in the midst of my questions, I am trying to really discern whether pushing my self for more than a couple of weeks is healthy for my brain. I am currently studying for my psychology degree, and It sounds like you and I could speak for hours about this stuff, but the main idea is this. I have been fascinated by the power of the brain. I lived with two roommates/best friends who were both intellectually gifted beyond measure. One who was taking differential calculus back in early years of High school, another who received perfect scores on act, sat, and took the asvab for the military and scored higher than anyone in the recruitment building missing just one question out of the entire test.
As a naturally curious scholar myself, I observed both of their behaviors, which were polar opposites. My mathematically gifted friend Mo’d multiple times daily, (and yeah we are good friends and have talked about nofap before.) My other friend( same out of conversation) revealed that he did not masturbate what so ever. Between both their borderline genius minds, they have trained me to a certain extent in mathematics and overall academics. This is where I become conflicted as to which path is closer to the truth.
I am a highly critical thinker who strives for certain universal truths. For instance, Einstein turned out to be extremely sexually driven, where as figures like Isaac Newton died a virgin.Then you have philosophers such as Pythagoras who abstained from sexual indulgences. See where I am coming from? I am really trying to crack the code on whether abstaining from sexual indulgence is the key to unlocking your inner genius based of empirical experience. Sorry this is long, but I have feeling a well read guy like yourself is fascinated by these hidden truths as well. I don’t have many friends who dabble in these practices these days(both previous friends off to different colleges), and I am certain you have read far more than I have. I highly admire intellectuals(like yourself) and their advice, so whats your take?
Without knowing your friends, I would suggest that one of them is likely sexually repressed (sexually) while the other is on the other end of the spectrum. (Of course, this isn’t necessarily so.)
I’m not exactly sure what you’re looking for me to respond to from your comments. The issue seems to be that it’s important to clarify your vision and goals.
Internal alchemy is about transmuting the energy within the body into higher consciousness. Scholarship and cognitive intelligence is a different line of development. So it depends on what you value and what’s most important to you.
For example, I was more interested in cognitive development in my 20s and part of my 30s, but then my focus shifted to developing consciousness. But that’s a personal journey.
In terms of the sexuality of so-called geniuses, as you can see there’s quite a range. So I’m not certain how sex and intelligence correlate — or if it does at all.
In terms of practice, yoga is hit or miss. I prefer qigong because most yoga, as taught in the States, is predominantly stretching. In qigong, you learn how to feel and move the energy within your body.
If you’re interested you can start here: https://scottjeffrey.com/zhan-zhuang/
Amazing food for thought. I’ll definitely be applying this information to my everyday life, the path of journey and purpose only gets clearer. Bless your heart & soul.
That’s great! Thanks for the comment…
I appreciate all the feed back, and sorry its taken this long to reply, I have been very busy. Anyways I believe your correct when it comes to the two different styles of development for both mindsets, and after some more thinking I think that’s what the problem has been all along. Any higher consciousness of mine tells me to let go of any desire to be a genius or intelligent for that matter, in fact a lot of Buddhist text would suggest that its all an illusion to began with. I think I am just going to try and eliminate masturbating and pornography in its entirety, and see where the wind takes me from there. I see that you authored multiple books, and I am big reader. Are there any you personally recommend for more insight on consciousness? thanks!
If you’re asking about the books I’ve authored, the only one I might recommend is Creativity Revealed. In that book, however, I cite research from Dr. David R. Hawkins, which ended up not being valid. (This book was published over a decade ago.) But outside of that, I think the book offers some useful insights into consciousness.
That said, you may be better off going to the source. See Nisargadatta Maharaj’s books like “I Am That” or “The Spiritual Teachings of Ramana Maharshi.” These two Indian sages give perhaps the most lucid descriptions of nonduality.
Diego: Your explanation seems totally valid. The only thing I do not agree is that in tantric sexual relations you lose the seminal energy which is false (the fact that you lose the pre-ejaculatory fluid, you are not losing your jing in absolut). A man can last his whole life having sex with a woman without ever ejaculating, it is difficult to achieve but not impossible. Adolph Hitler achieved his power by this method, unfortunately he applied bad paradigms and became a very bad being. By the way, he died an old man in Asunción (Paraguay) at the beginning of the 70s. The Russian monk Rasputin is a similar case, although he was very womanizing.
Hi Diego. First, “seminal energy” isn’t the same thing as jing. Seminal fluid is a component of jing in later stages.
Second, obviously, it would be advisable to take all such stories as hearsay — unless you’ve accomplished this feat yourself.
The main thing to understand is that men lose jing primarily through ejaculation AND orgasm. So if you were able to have intercourse without either of these things, and then settle your jing after intercourse, I don’t think you wouldn’t lose energy during sex.
Helpful and interesting article.
Gonna try to follow the technique written above.
Thank you
That’s great to hear. Feel free to share your experiences after you try them!
Very interesting article, and have already started applying some principles. I’ve struggled with controlling my sexual energy (as a woman) for several years. I suffered from an extremely high libido and found myself very emotional and often aggressive. I kept chaste until I got married a couple of years ago only to find my husband had a very low libido/ interest in sex. Also the media programs our minds into thinking all men love to have sex and that they are very open to it which can really hurt people’s expectations. This has been a horrible and frustrating experience but instead of seeing my libido and situation as a curse perhaps it is a blessing, I’ve started using techniques to channel my sexual energy into creative energy and can already see the results on my fitness, body and creative expression. In my culture, we aren’t allowed to divorce very easily so perhaps this is the only way forward for a unique woman like myself.
Hi Amna. What you’re describing is actually more common than you think. It has been estimated that around 20% of married couples are in sexless relationships. (Search it for sources.)
So, you’re not alone. There are many different psychological and physical reasons to have both a high sex drive as well as a low sex drive.
When you consider the idea that we’re only supposed to have sex for procreation, then these “issues” become somewhat irrelevant (from that perspective).
And yes, that sexual energy can be channeled into creative energy (as well as the development of higher consciousness), so it sounds like you’re making progress in this arena.
So wonderful. thank so much.
You’re most welcome, Aku!
The system requires that when you are fully charged, you can now switch your thoughts from sexual to practical things that you want to achieve.
It looks like you’re making a statement instead of a question here, but the cultivating of energy is an on-going process.
You seem to be responding to every comment which is really cool. I’m looking to get into qi-gong to learn how to transmute this highly sexual energy into creativity. Would you recommend playing a musical instrument too?
Hi Jack. Playing an instrument is an awesome form of self-expression. To me, what a person does with their creative energy is a personal choice. That’s more of a function of listening to your Inner Guide on how it wants to express itself.
Thanks for your very detailed article very helpful indeed.
My question is clear and straightforward but I want you to get a brief history on the questionnaire before you attempt to give me an answer.
(Personal History)
I am a 24 year old male I practice sexual suppression as opposed to Transmutation.I go mostly no longer than one month without ejaculating through the practice of masturbation (without porn).
I read in the article that releasing of energy once every 3 days is recommended for my age range due to the high levels of energy production. I aim for the discipline of once every 3 months (as a start) in order so as not to put any form to waste.
(MY ISSUE)
My goals are Blocked by my subconscious inability to practice what my conscious mind need done.
(MY QUESTIONS)
How can I program my subconscious mind or in easier terms how can I program my memory in order to bend it to my conscious will?
Do you know of any helpful methods?
Are there memory programming tools that you are aware of?
In what way Can energy be manipulated with no conscious effort?
Are there devices from this era or An ancient era used to merge the subconscious with the conscious mind to work in harmony?
Reading from the great article you have produced I would like to hear your response..
First, the article doesn’t recommend releasing sexual energy once every 3 days. It says that there are guidelines within one tradition that says this schedule is “okay” (in the sense that it likely won’t harm a person at that age). But I also don’t think this guideline supports energy cultivation.
Second, practicing “sexual suppression” as you called it is NOT advisable. You will create more and more tension within your unconscious. Using your willpower in this way will cause you to lapse into other addictive and compulsive tendencies (which is what it seems you’re already experiencing).
Trying to use brute force to overcome your unconscious/subconscious desires will always fail in the end. Until you learn how to practice moderation, this tension will likely persist.
Most of the “subconscious mind programming” methods I’m aware of involve using NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). They can be useful in the short-term, but I don’t believe they are helpful in the context of sexual energy transmutation.
You don’t need any tools or devices to integrate your body and mind. It just takes practice and method. Qigong and yoga are the main two avenues I’m aware of for this body-mind integration. There are no shortcuts in this process. You are developing a new line of intelligence and this simply takes time.