A Definitive Guide to Jungian Shadow Work: How to Integrate Your Dark Side

OVERVIEW: This in-depth guide explores the nature of Jung’s shadow archetype, provides shadow work exercises, and shares insights for integrating the shadow.

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It’s always standing right behind us, just out of view. In any direct light, we cast a shadow.

The shadow is a psychological term for everything we can’t see in ourselves.

Exploring your shadow can lead to greater authenticity, internal strength, creativity, energy, awakening, and more.

Shadow work is essential for anyone interested in self-knowledge and psychological development.

Let’s start by examining what the shadow is …

What is the Shadow?

The shadow is a critical psychological insight from the work of psychiatrist Carl Jung.

The shadow is the “dark side” of our personality because it consists chiefly of primitive, negative human emotions and impulses like rage, envy, greed, selfishness, desire, and the striving for power.

Everything we deny in ourselves—whatever we perceive as inferior, evil, or unacceptable—becomes part of the shadow.

Anything incompatible with our chosen conscious attitude about ourselves relegates to this dark side.

The Shadow Archetype is the Disowned Self

This shadow self represents the parts of us we no longer claim to be our own, including both inherent negative and positive qualities.

Whatever we disown gets relegated to our unconscious.

Jung found that the psyche is comprised of both conscious and unconscious material. This “psychic material” includes thoughts, feelings, images, attitudes, motivations, judgments, and impulses.

Conscious material is the stuff we know about ourselves. Unconscious material is all of the stuff we don’t know. Generally, there’s FAR more unconscious material hiding from us.

What is Shadow Work?

Shadow work is the process of getting to know the parts of yourself that you’re not currently aware of (unconscious).

All the stuff we tucked away in our early development—the attributes, attitudes, impulses, and qualities incompatible with our self-identity—are brought to the surface.

This disowned material is brought into consciousness (conscious mind) with shadow work so we can ultimately accept these traits, impulses, and attributes.

To simplify the process, we can break shadow work into two stages:

Stage 1: Get to know your shadow (bring it to our awareness)

Stage 2: Integrate your shadow (make it a part of you)

When we begin doing shadow work, we tend to be what Jung called one-sided. That is, we’re cut off from many aspects of ourselves. Shadow work helps resolve this one-sidedness. (Don’t worry, if this sounds too abstract, it will become more clear as we progress through this guide.)

The goal of shadow work is to:

  • Harmonize the opposing tensions within your psyche,
  • Build consciousness (become more aware of who you are), and
  • Move toward psychic wholeness (symbolized by the Self).

Shadow work is an integral part of psychological development.

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From Le Chemin des Écoliers (1861)

How the Shadow Forms in Childhood

Every young child knows kindness, love, and generosity. But the child also expresses anger, selfishness, and greed.

These emotions are part of our shared human experience. However, as we grow up, something happens. Traits associated with “being good” are accepted, while others associated with “being bad” are rejected.

We all have basic human needs. These needs include physiological needs, safety, and security needs, and needs for belonging. These needs are biological and instinctual. When we expressed certain parts of ourselves as children, our environment provided negative cues.

Maybe we got angry and threw a tantrum. Our parents reprimanded the outburst and sent us to our room. Or perhaps we acted boldly, playfully, spontaneously, or silly in our first-grade classroom. Our teacher shamed us for our lack of decorum in front of the class and told us to sit down.

Whenever we experienced this conflict, it threatened one of our basic needs. Would the disapproval of our parents threaten our safety? Would the disapproval of our teachers and classmates jeopardize our need to belong?

We adjusted our behavior to gratify our needs and learned to adapt to the external world.

Where Do Our Disowned Parts Go?

All the unaccepted or discouraged parts of us in the first 20 years of our lives are bundled together and swept out of view (outside our conscious awareness). However, these unexamined or disowned aspects of our personality don’t go anywhere.

Although we deny them (consciously) in our attempt to cast them out, we can’t get rid of them.

Instead, we repress them and they become part of what Jung called the personal unconscious. (Think of the personal unconscious as everything we don’t know about ourselves.)

Essentially, we can’t eliminate our shadow. It stays with us as our dark brother or sister. Trouble arises when we fail to see it. For then, to be sure, it is standing right behind us.

As poet Robert Bly says in A Little Book of the Human Shadow, the child puts all these unwanted parts into an invisible bag and drags it behind him.

This repression of unwanted parts creates what Jung called the archetypal shadow.

As Jung writes in Psychology and Alchemy:

There is no light without shadow and no psychic wholeness without imperfection.

My First Experience with the Shadow Archetype

I understood how important knowing my shadow was after writing the biography of a well-known spiritual teacher many years ago.

Most of us go to great lengths to protect our self-image from anything unflattering or unfamiliar. So it’s easier to observe another’s shadow before acknowledging one’s own.

It became abundantly clear through my research and private interviews with this teacher that he was not the person he presented to the public.

The contrast was so stark that it felt unreconcilable. Yet, it was clear that he genuinely believed the conscious image he maintained of himself. (Ultimately, I don’t think he was a charlatan or con man.)

Seeing the shadow of this teacher helped me understand how someone can show gifts in one area of life while remaining unaware of deceitful behavior in other areas.

Every human being is susceptible to this.

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The Cost of Ignoring One’s Shadow

The ancient Greeks understood the need to honor all parts of the psyche. For them, these parts were worshiped as autonomous gods and goddesses.

The Greeks knew a god or goddess you ignored became the one who turned against you and destroyed you.

Any part we disown within us eventually turns against us. The personal shadow represents a collection of these disowned parts.

So here’s the problem: The shadow archetype can operate largely independently without our awareness.

It’s as if our conscious self goes on autopilot while the unconscious shadow self assumes control.1Bargh, J. A., & Morsella, E. (2008). The Unconscious Mind. Perspectives on psychological science: a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, 3(1), 73–79. doi:10.1111/j.1745-6916.2008.00064.x

What Happens When Your Shadow is Ignored?

When we’re divorced from the shadow archetype, we:

  • Do things we wouldn’t voluntarily do and later regret (if we catch it).
  • Feel anxious or depressed and we don’t know why.
  • Engage in self-sabotage or self-loathing.
  • Say things we wouldn’t otherwise say.
  • Swing from ego inflation (grandiosity) to ego deflation (insecurity).
  • Act self-absorbed (lack awareness of how our actions influence others).
  • Have low self-esteem because of a persistent critical inner voice.
  • Struggle in our relationships (with frequent conflicts).

Remaining unconscious of the shadow hurts our relationships with our spouse, family, and friends. It impacts our professional relationships as well as our leadership abilities.

When we don’t know our shadow, we engage in a never-ending cycle of self-deception.

Ultimately, when the shadow archetype is unintegrated, we are in a psychic war with ourselves …

An Illustration: The Fate of Dr. Jekyll

Do you remember Robert Louis Stevenson’s Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

Dr. Jekyll was a respectable gentleman (the “good,” conscious side of the personality).

He took a potion to separate his darker impulses to create a creature free of conscience named Mr. Hyde (the personal shadow).

Dr. Jekyll could not control the actions of his darker half, leading him to commit unscrupulous acts, including murder.

Such is the fate of anyone who denies their shadow, although often not so severe.

What Happens When You Repress Your Shadow

So what happens to all the parts of ourselves we sweep out of view?

Whatever qualities we deny in ourselves, we see in others. In psychology, this is called projection.

We project onto others anything we bury within us. That is, we see our shadow in others.

For example, if you get irritated when someone is rude, it’s a good bet you haven’t owned your rudeness. This doesn’t mean the person isn’t being rude to you. However, if rudeness wasn’t in your shadow self, someone else’s rudeness wouldn’t bother you so much.

This process doesn’t happen consciously. We generally aren’t aware of our projections. The ego uses this mechanism to defend itself—to defend its perceived self-identity.

As Jung writes in Alchemical Studies:2CG Jung. “The Philosophical Tree” (1945). In CW 13: Alchemical Studies. P.335.

A man who is unconscious of himself acts in a blind, instinctive way and is in addition fooled by all the illusions that arise when he sees everything that he is not conscious of in himself coming to meet him from outside as projections upon his neighbour.

Jung explains how when we repress our shadow, we project these qualities we don’t know about ourselves onto others. These projections distort reality, creating a boundary between how we perceive ourselves and who we are.

Carl Jung’s Map of the Psyche

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Carl Jung’s Map of the Psyche (Simplified)

This simplified diagram highlights some of the core principles in Jung’s model of the psyche related to shadow work.

Ego: Our conscious self or self-identity—who we consciously perceive ourselves to be.

Persona: Our social mask. Our persona (personae for plural) is how we interact with the outside world before doing shadow work. It represents the roles we play.

Unconscious: Everything within us that’s outside of our conscious awareness. While the ego and persona are relatively conscious, the following archetypes remain unconscious when we start our journey:

Shadow Archetype: Everything about our personality that we are presently cut off from. This “dark side” is sometimes called the shadow self.

Anima-Animus: The anima represents the feminine aspect of a man’s psyche while the animus represents the masculine aspect of a woman’s psyche.

The Self: One’s true self—the divine, organizing principle within us.

Getting to know one’s shadow is the first stage toward returning home to the Self and experiencing wholeness.

(For a more detailed look at Carl Jung’s Map of the Psyche, see the Individuation Process.)

Six Powerful Benefits of Jungian Shadow Work

The shadow isn’t a popular topic (although that’s starting to change). Who enjoys owning their flaws, weaknesses, selfishness, nastiness, hate, and so on?

Focusing on our strengths is more life-affirming. However, exploring our shadow side gives us tremendous opportunities for growth and development.

Let’s look at six benefits one can experience from doing Jungian shadow work:

1 – Greater Internal Strength

This is often referred to as confidence or “high self-esteem.” With shadow work, a lot of your insecurities and neurotic tendencies fall away. You drop the need to defend your self-identity (persona).

The result is that your natural confidence returns and you become “okay” with yourself (self-accepting).

You see yourself more clearly as you integrate your shadow side and come to terms with your darker half. You become infinitely stronger, more grounded, secure, fully human, and whole.

2 – Improved Relationships

It is easier to accept the shadow in others when you can accept your darkness.

As a result, other people’s behavior won’t trigger you as easily. You’ll also have an easier time communicating with others.

You may notice an improvement in your relationships with your spouse, family members, friends, and business associates. This alone is a huge reason to do shadow work.

3 – Clearer Perception of Yourself

In seeing others and yourself as you are—without distortions brought on by self-deception—you’ll have a clearer lens with which to view the world.

As you integrate your shadow, you’re approaching your authentic Self, which gives you a more realistic assessment of who you are.

You won’t perceive yourself as too great (inflated) or too small (deflated). When you’re genuinely self-aware, you can assess your environment more accurately from a state of neutrality.

You’ll see others and evaluate situations with greater clarity and understanding.

4 – Enhanced Energy and Physical Health

Dragging around this invisible bag of stuff behind us is draining. It is exhausting to continually repress and suppress all of the parts of ourselves that we don’t want to face.

Fatigue and lethargy plague the unexamined life. Mental suppression and repressed emotions can lead to physical pain, disease, and addictive behaviors.

Dr. John Sarno healed thousands of patients of chronic back pain by helping them acknowledge the repressed rage in their unconscious.3John Sarno, Healing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection, 2010.

With shadow work, you liberate a tremendous reservoir of psychic energy you unconsciously invested in protecting yourself. This can greatly improve your physical, mental, and emotional health.

Shadow work can bring you inner strength and a greater sense of balance, making you better equipped to embrace life’s challenges.

5 – Psychological Integration and Maturity

As long as we deny the shadow archetype and repress certain parts of ourselves, a sense of wholeness, integration, and unity eludes us.

How can we feel a sense of wholeness and balance with a divided mind?

Developmental research suggests that only a small percentage (less than 5%) ever reach mature psychological development.4Cook-Greuter, Susanne R.. “Nine Levels Of Increasing Embrace In Ego Development: A Full-Spectrum Theory Of Vertical Growth And Meaning Making.” (2014).

That is, psychological maturity is rare. Integrating the shadow brings you one step closer to realizing a sense of wholeness. Developmental psychology argues persuasively that shadow work is critical to achieving mature adulthood.

6 – Greater Creativity

One of the profound benefits of shadow work is that it unlocks more of your creative potential.

Creativeness, as humanistic psychologists like Abraham Maslow and Carl Rogers found, is a spontaneous occurrence in mentally healthy (integrated) individuals.5Abraham Maslow, The Farther Reaches of Human Nature. 1971.,6Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person, 1995.

Jung found that all his patients began engaging in self-expression—drawing, painting, dancing, sculpting, fictional writing, etc—at a certain stage of inner work.

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Six Tips for Beginners Doing Shadow Work

If you’re going to begin shadow work, here are six things that will make it easier to approach the shadow archetype:

1 – Center Yourself

This is perhaps the most important thing to do before you engage in shadow work. Yet, it’s rarely (if ever) mentioned in literature about working with the shadow archetype.

You won’t get constructive results if you attempt to get to know your shadow self when you’re not centered. Instead, you’ll be met with ego resistance.

The shadow archetype represents a cluster of various parts hidden within your psyche.

Only from your Center can you get to know these parts. If one of these parts is “blended” with you, it will hijack the process. You’ll be judgemental, critical, or confused. This will inhibit your ability to get to observe and integrate your shadow.

Before working with the shadow archetype, you want to be calm, clear, and neutral. That is, you want to be in your Center.

2 – Cultivate Self-Compassion

When doing shadow work, it is helpful to cultivate a sense of unconditional friendliness with one’s self. In Buddhism, this is called Maitri.

It is challenging to examine our darker side without friendliness and self-compassion. If you’re hard on yourself when you make mistakes, it is difficult to confront your shadow.

If you’re accustomed to feelings of shame or guilt, transmute these emotions with friendliness, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

Start by accepting your humanness. Remember that we ALL have a shadow—”Everyone is in the soup together,” as Jung used to say.

You may find it helpful to connect to your heart:

  • Place your attention on your heart.
  • Breathe in and acknowledge your heart.
  • Breathe out and say to your heart, “Thank you.”

It’s a simple Buddhist practice offered by Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh.7Thich Nhat Hanh, True Love: A Practice for Awakening the Heart, 2006.

3 – Develop Self-Awareness

Seeing the shadow requires a self-reflective mindset—to observe our behaviors, thoughts, feelings, impulses, and attitudes. Then, to reflect on these reactions.

Meditation training can help foster nonjudgmental awareness—the ability to stay aware of the present moment without involving the inner critic or other modes of judgment.

Self-awareness and self-reflection are precursors to shadow work because they help us observe and evaluate feelings and emotional reactions without judgment or criticism.

Ultimately, your self-awareness will develop as you do more shadow work. So dive in and get messy!

4 – Be Courageously Honest

Self-honesty and integrity are also prerequisites for shadow work.

It’s easy to give lip service to these qualities, but true self-honesty means being willing to see unpleasant attributes in our behavior and personality.

It is often uncomfortable to come to terms with your disowned parts, which is why the ego invests so much energy in repressing them.

Seeing and accepting your insecure selfishness and tyrannical nasty parts can be challenging for people. Observing your hidden attitudes, behaviors, dark thoughts, and emotions takes inner courage.

The rewards are worth the discomfort, as these honest confrontations with your shadow help heal the splits in your psyche.

5 – Record Your Discoveries

It’s fascinating how some of our disowned parts want to remain out of our view.

Similar to how our dreams slip out of focus moments after awakening, our disowned parts can be elusive. A shadow journal where you record your discoveries about yourself is one remedy.

Writing your insights and reviewing them later helps encode the discovery into your conscious awareness.

6 – Invest Mental Energy in Shadow Work

Bringing the unconscious to consciousness and integrating one’s shadow takes what Jung called moral effort.

In Aion, Jung explains:8C.G. Jung, Aion. CW 9, Part II: page 14.

The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.

In Alchemical Studies, Jung notes why shadow work is unpopular:9C.G. Jung, “The Philosophical Tree,” CW 13: Alchemical Studies, 1945, para 335.

Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of Western theosophy, but not the confrontation with the shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.

As Jung stresses, the dedication of one’s will and intention is necessary to develop self-knowledge, build consciousness, and get to know one’s shadow.

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Six Powerful Shadow Work Exercises

Are you ready to get started? Here are six shadow work exercises for beginners:

Exercise 1: Watch Your Emotional Reactions

Remember that the shadow is elusive; it hides behind us. Our defense mechanisms are designed to keep the shadow archetype repressed and out of view.

The more you pay attention to your emotional reactions, the more frequently you will notice your shadow. Remember, we tend to project our disowned parts onto other people.

One of the best ways to do shadow work is to pay attention to your emotional reactions toward others.

Sure, your colleague might be aggressive, arrogant, inconsiderate, or impatient, but if you don’t have those same qualities within you, you won’t have a strong reaction to their behavior.

Train Yourself to Observe Your Reactions

If you’re paying close attention, you can train yourself to notice your shadow when you witness strong, negative emotional responses to others.

As Jung writes in Memories, Dreams, Reflections:10Carl Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections, 1989, page 246.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

But we rarely have time to work with those emotions on the spot. Ultimately, it helps to take five or ten minutes to reflect on your interactions with others and your related reactions.

Whatever bothers you in another is likely a disowned part within yourself. Focus on what and who evokes an emotional charge in you. It doesn’t matter what the emotion is; it’s a clue you are denying something within you.

Exercise 2: Engage in Inner Dialogue

Many forms of inner work require you to actively dialogue with your shadow side.

At first, this might seem like a scary idea since many of us believe “only crazy people talk to themselves.” But we all have many subpersonalities—numerous unrecognized, autonomous parts in our minds. Jung called these subpersonalities archetypes.

Many different integrated psychologies offer ways of working with these disparate parts, including:

  • Jung’s Active Imagination11C.G. Jung, Jung on Active Imagination, 1997.
  • Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems12Jay Earley, Self-Therapy, 2012.
  • Stone and Winkleman’s Voice Di alogue13Hal Stone and Sidra Stone, Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual, 1998.
  • Assagioli’s Psychosynthesis14Roberto Assagioli, Psychosynthesis: A Manual of Principles and Techniques, 1971.

When we don’t pay attention to these parts—one or many aspects of our shadow—they influence our attitudes and behaviors.

Talk to Your “Parts”

Have you ever done or said something and then wondered why you did or said it? A part of your psyche was taking charge.

Every so-called “accident” is a subpersonality hijacking your behavior. Our disowned parts aren’t always trying to hurt us, but they often harm us when we ignore or deny them.

We can integrate many of these parts into our conscious selves by dialoguing with these parts in our imagination or a journal. Then, they become our allies instead of our enemies.

Jung called this form of shadow work active imagination.

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The shadow is often depicted in shadowy figures in one’s dreams

Exercise 3: Challenge the Good Part/Bad Part

Many of us identify ourselves as being a “good person”. We were praised as children for being a “good boy” or “good girl,” and that identification stuck with us. This intensified the split between our conscious self-identity and the shadow archetype.

As soon as you think to yourself “I’m a good person,” your mind will immediately start to edit out all of the things you do/think/say that aren’t consistent with this statement.

As a result, people who think of themselves as “good people” invariably cause much suffering to themselves and others. And worse still, they don’t even know it! (That is, they are cut off from their true thoughts, feelings, and behaviors hidden in their unconscious.)

It works the other way too: If you think you’re a “bad person,” your mind will filter out many positive attributes you probably have. This is sometimes called the “golden shadow.”

Make a list of all of your positive qualities. Then, highlight the opposite. Try to identify the opposite within yourself. For example, if you define yourself as disciplined, you’re likely repressing your laziness. The lazy part is hiding in the shadows.

The disowned parts influence your behavior and attitudes. They are constantly creating internal tension. So, in this case, try identifying with this lazy part. See it. Accept it. Make friends with it. It’s okay to be lazy too.

This type of ego confrontation is an integral part of shadow work.

Exercise 4: Get to Know the Shadow Archetypes

Perhaps one of the easier ways of getting to know your shadow is to familiarize yourself with the work of neo-Jungian Robert Moore. Moore has outlined the structure of the psyche in archetypal terms. 15Robert Moore, Structure of the Self, https://robertmoore-phd.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=page.display&page_id=32.

In his book written with Douglas Gillette, Moore suggests that the four primary archetypes of the psyche are the King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover.

Each archetype possesses qualities we define as the best attributes of mature adulthood. But for each constructive archetype, there is a destructive bipolar shadow. That is, there’s both an active and passive shadow archetype.

For example, the shadows of the King archetype are the Tyrant and the Weakling. The shadows of the Magician archetype are the Detached Manipulator and the Innocent One.

Getting to know these bipolar shadows makes it easier to identify their thoughts and behavioral patterns within yourself. I highly recommend Moore and Gillette’s King Warrior Magician Lover (KWML). In my opinion, KWML is one of the most important books on psychology for those interested in shadow work.

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Robert Moore’s Structure of the Psyche

Exercise 5: Shadow Work Prompts & Questions

As mentioned above, journaling can help encode your insights into your conscious awareness. Journaling can also be used more actively as a tool for shadow work.

Personally, I found automatic writing the most effective means of using a journal for inner work. With automatic writing, you capture your stream of consciousness on the page without mental editing, judging, or commentary.

However, I understand that some people prefer more structure. As a consequence, shadow journal prompts and questions can be useful.

Shadow Work Journal Prompts for Beginners

Here’s a list of 15 shadow work prompts to help get you started:

  1. What did I have an emotional reaction to today?
  2. What’s behind that reaction?
  3. Do those feelings relate to anything in my past?
  4. What did I judge in myself today?
  5. Where did I learn this judgment (in my past)?
  6. What did I judge in others today?
  7. Can I observe and acknowledge these same qualities within myself?
  8. What am I most afraid of?
  9. What feelings am I trying to avoid?
  10. Why am I afraid of these feelings?
  11. What am most ashamed of?
  12. How do I sabotage myself?
  13. What do I do when I’m trying to avoid something that makes me uncomfortable?
  14. How am I similar to my parents?
  15. What qualities are in my parents that I seek to avoid?

There are many ways to approach these shadow work journal prompts and questions.

You can pick a time in the evening to reflect on your day. Select a few questions and work with them for a few weeks (or longer). The more you bring awareness to these shadow work questions, the more your mind will get used to inner analysis.

Exercise 6: The 3-2-1 Shadow Process

Finally, if you want a step-by-step shadow work exercise, try the 3-2-1 Shadow Process developed by integral philosophy Ken Wilber in Integral Life Practice.

Here are the five basic steps:

Step 1: Choose what you want to work with.

It’s often easier to begin with someone you have difficulty with (e.g., partner, relative, boss).

This person may irritate, disturb, annoy, or upset you. Or maybe you feel attracted to, obsessed with, infatuated with, or possessive about this person.

Choose someone with whom you have a strong emotional charge, whether positive or negative.

Step 2: Face it.

Now, imagine this person. Describe those qualities that most upset you, or the characteristics you are most attracted to using 3rd-person language (he, she, it).

Talk about them out loud or write them down in a journal. Express your feelings.

Don’t calculate say the right thing. There is no need to be nice. The person you are describing will never see this.

Step 3: Talk to it.

Dialogue with this person in your imagination. Speak in the 2nd person to this person (using “you” language).

Talk directly to this person as if he or she was there. Tell them what bothers you about them.

Ask them questions such as:

  • Why are you doing this to me?
  • What do you want from me?
  • What are you trying to show me?
  • What do you have to teach me?

Imagine their response to these questions. Speak that imaginary response out loud. Record the conversation in your journal if you like.

Step 4: Be it.

Become this person. Take on the qualities that either annoy or fascinate you. Embody the traits you described in step 2. Use 1st-person language ( I, me, mine).

This may feel awkward, and it should. You are taking on the exact traits you have been denying in yourself.

Use statements such as:

  • I am angry.
  • I am jealous.
  • I am radiant.

Fill in the blank with whatever qualities you are working with: “I am __________.”

Step 5: Notice these disowned qualities in yourself.

Experience the part of you that is this trait. Avoid making the process abstract or conceptual: just BE it.

Now you can re-own and integrate this quality in yourself.

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What is Shadow Integration?

Shadow integration is the process of bringing these disowned parts of yourself back into consciousness and making them a part of you.

Each disowned part, once integrated, makes you less fragmented. (Less anxious and at war with yourself.)

For example, let’s say you get angry when you see someone lying. You think to yourself, “I would never lie like that.” After confronting this aspect of your shadow, you come to terms with the fact that you lie quite often too—including lying to yourself. Now, when someone else lies, you notice it without getting angry anymore.

Each step you take in integrating the shadow archetype brings you closer to wholeness. In the process, your personality changes and develops.

Integrating your shadow, however, takes time. Patience is necessary. Shadow integration requires many confrontations with one’s ego.

As each psychic tension gets resolved, you become more balanced and “okay” with yourself.  The value of this okayness is difficult to express in words.

Shadow Integration and Ego Confrontations

We dismantle our current conscious self-identity to get to know and integrate our shadow. We do this by deliberately challenging our self-identity—”ego confrontations”—using various methods.

We begin to confront our ego and its identity construct. Through each confrontation, we chisel away at the ego construct formed during childhood and young adulthood.

But this self-identity can be formidable. It was forged over many years and via constant subconscious programming, conditioning, and repetition.

As such, we must peel away these layers of conditioning slowly, carefully, and patiently. Otherwise, we end up in an even greater war with ourselves.

Each internal confrontation can turn into boundless resistance:

“No, I’m simply not like that.”

Resistance stalls shadow integration. This resistance keeps the ego’s old self-identity intact. But with patience and sincerity, we chip away at this false construct.

The process can be challenging, dark, and foreboding. Other times it can be enlivening, liberating, and grounding. Our experience with shadow work largely depends on our level of resistance, which varies from person to person.

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Five Factors that Determine Resistance to Shadow Work

This isn’t meant to be an exhaustive list, but here are five relevant factors that determine one’s level of internal resistance related to integrating the shadow:

Sincerity: Do you sincerely want to integrate your shadow?

Perhaps the single most important attribute for successful shadow integration is sincerity. That is, you have to genuinely want to get to know yourself. (This represents the “moral effort” Jung spoke of.)

Many folks think or act like they want to know their shadow, but they just give it lip service. Their internal Trickster is playing a game with them.

They might read books about the shadow, or post quotes from Jung on social media. They truly think they are doing shadow work. But on a day-to-day basis, they aren’t applying any methods. There are no real ego confrontations taking place. As a consequence, their level of self-deception only increases. No real progress is made.

Curiosity: Are you curious about yourself?

Some people are genuinely curious to get to know themselves. They aren’t interested in maintaining any rigid self-identity. They value self-knowledge.

“Good” stuff, “ugly” stuff — as long as it brings them closer to themselves, they’re in for the ride.

This curiosity naturally curbs one’s internal resistance.

Devotion: What’s your level of commitment?

Doing shadow work takes commitment and persistence. It’s easy to fall back into old patterns.

It takes commitment to apply the methods and catch your shadow whenever the opportunity arises—even when you don’t want to.

This commitment translates to applying will/discipline to stick with each daily ego confrontation as opportunities arise.

Energy: Do you have sufficient attention to spare?

If your attention is scattered on many things (professional, financial, social, amusement), it will be challenging to devote the time and attention (mental energy) necessary to doing inner work.

So there’s a time to engage in this process; and time to wait.

For this reason, Jung’s “Inward Turn” often occurs in the second half of life when the individual is already established in their career and family life.

Investing mental energy in shadow work is difficult if you’re starting a family or a new career.

Self-Reliance: Do you want to be self-reliant?

Carl Jung spoke about the importance of self-reliance. Self-reliance occurs when the locus of control resides within oneself. It develops naturally through the process of individuation (mature psychological adulthood).

Those engaged in inner work must value self-reliance or they will stay within the “conventional world” (illusions built on prior conditioning) without ever integrating their shadow.

And, Remember the Center

Finally, as I mentioned earlier, shadow work is next to impossible when we’re out of the Center.

The truth is the average person is “possessed” by one subpersonality or another from moment to moment. In depth psychology, these subpersonalities are called Jungian archetypes. The Taoists call them “ghosts and spirits.” Ultimately, none of them are the real you (Self).

Learning how to move toward the Center is an invaluable practice with many subtleties. It helps you access the neutral Observer that sees all without reactions or resistance.

When the Veils Begin to Drop Away…

As you progress with shadow work, you begin to notice all of the tensions you were subconsciously holding. Some internal tensions were partly known to you; others slowly arise within your awareness over time.

As you continue integrating your shadow, these tensions eventually get resolved and fall away. The seemingly endless psychic in-fighting gets harmonized.

Over time, your identity becomes less rigid and more fluid. You no longer hold any self-identity so closely.

In essence, you’ve initiated a process to undo what the Taoists called acquired conditioning. The ego construct and its self-identity get dismantled, piece by piece. As a result, you experience less one-sidedness and more wholeness.

The KEY to Integrating Your Shadow

Ultimately, shadow work and integrating your shadow comes down to one primary thing: acceptance.

Can you accept the reality of the insights that arise through inner work? Or, will your ego ultimately reject these truths?

Initially, the conscious mind often wants to reject the disowned parts of ourselves. It wants to keep its current self-identity intact. On the internal hero’s journey, the hero almost always refuses the “call to adventure”—initially.

In the absence of acceptance, we are left with insurmountable resistance. But through internal observation and the persistence of watching our patterns and triggers day by day, reality begins to settle in.

As psychological maturity develops, you become “softer” and more understanding with yourself. Acceptance of what is becomes easier and more natural. The results bring more fluidity to one’s life.

While “peeling layers of an onion” may be an overused metaphor, it is certainly apt for shadow work.

By helping you dismantle the false self, shadow work helps pave the way to bring you closer to the true Self.

Finally, here’s some inspiring commentary on Jung and accepting one’s shadow side from philosopher Alan Watts:


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Recommended Books Related to Shadow Work

Here are my favorite books directly related to the shadow archetype and shadow work:

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Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert Johnson

Paperback

The first book I recommend to anyone interested in learning about the shadow is by Robert Johnson. Johnson has a gift for communicating difficult concepts for us lay readers. It provides a theoretical foundation to begin doing shadow work.

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King Warrior Magician Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette

Paperback

Moore and Gillette’s King Warrior Magician Lover. highlights the primary behavioral patterns (archetypes) of mature adulthood and the bipolar shadow archetypes that dominate most behavior. In my opinion, it is a must-read for anyone doing shadow work.

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Shadow and Evil in Fairy Tales by Marie-Louise von Franz

Paperback

Marie-Louise von Franz was Jung’s closest student—his protege. An accomplished analyst, von Franz focused on exploring the psyche through myths and fairy tales. Shadow and Evil in Fairy Tales provides an enlightening inside look at the shadow. (I recommend all of her work to those interested in shadow work and understanding the psyche.)

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Meeting the Shadow edited by Connie Zweig and Jeremiah Abrams

Paperback

A collection of essays and excerpts from various writers, psychologists, philosophers, and poets explores and exposes the shadow. It opens your mind to the diverse ways the shadow influences our lives.

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A Little Book on the Human Shadow by Robert Bly

Paperback

Master poet Robert Bly provides a vivid illustration of the shadow side of human nature through beautiful prose in this concise 81-page book.

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How to Be an Adult by David Richo

Paperback

In my opinion, this is one of the most important books for every adult, regardless of their age. Richo’s little book is packed with concise psychological practices for working with negative emotions and growing into adulthood (including shadow work).

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About the Author

Scott Jeffrey is the founder of CEOsage, a self-leadership resource publishing in-depth guides read by millions of self-actualizing individuals. He writes about self-development, practical psychology, Eastern philosophy, and integrated practices. For 25 years, Scott was a business coach to high-performing entrepreneurs, CEOs, and best-selling authors. He's the author of four books including Creativity Revealed.

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