Are you an Effective Mentor?
An effective mentor is also a great leader who inspires growth and contribution in others. Effective mentors have less work-related stress and interpersonal conflict because they are empathic communicators.
Every one of us helps, advises and guides others—we are all mentors to different people at different times. But what are the keys to being an effective mentor to your team members, associates, friends and family members?
1) Be a guide, not an instructor.
An instructor tells a person what to do. A guide provides moral support, but only advises when appropriate—like when you know they are going in the wrong direction.
2) Give the mentee space.
Your role as mentor is not to keep the mentee from failing. Failure often represents the fastest avenue for growth. Your supportive presence is often all that’s required.
3) Become an active listener.
Learn to be with the mentee. Deeply listen to the emotional tone and watch body posturing and gesturing, instead of merely listening to the words. Avoid formulating a response while the mentee is explaining an issue—even if you know the answer. The mentee will be more receptive once he feels he has been heard and understood.
4) Lead by example.
You earn the respect of your mentee not by what you say or do—or even your executive rank and title—but by who you are. Your own commitment to growth will inspire a profound willingness in your mentee.
5) Let go of your narcissistic ego.
There’s simply no place for ego within the mentor’s role. Approach the mentoring role with humility and a sense of servitude to your fellow employee. Remember: It’s not about you; it’s about them.
Mentoring is a role each of us plays in supporting and uplifting the whole of our organizations and all of humanity. The more you sharpen your mentoring skills, the more effective and inspiring a leader you will be.
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Great post, Scott – thanks!
Matt